Social Oxymorons


                                     




Oxymoron: a figure of speech in which apparently contradictory terms appear in conjunction. Slow down; neither I’m amazed to know that English has such beautiful figures (of speech, of course) nor I have any cruelly kind sort of intention to teach you some. Here, you just went through an oxymoron if you didn’t know what it is: cruelly kind.



So basically, since society, our society actually, is so interesting and fascinating and alluring and what not, this idea came to me that why not point out social oxymorons (yes, I have coined it myself, after all, my coin, my choice).
Now, the question was: how can an oxymoron be social? If it can be, there must be some anti-social ones too! Bad joke!
                                

Social oxymoron: something that has contrasting connotations associated with it. One of them may be original or close to original and the other one that has been developed by extremist social attitudes. Interesting!


       Healthy selfishness aka self-care

  
                                


Growing up, one of the many things that kill us inside is guilt. No wonder, this guilt has many sources and one of them is, people around you making you feel like, you think about yourself and yourself only.


 Among such attitudes, it is, no doubt, a feat to live a life of your choice, with profession of your choice, with partner of your choice, with a temperament which is originally yours. We forget to support ourselves. Why? People. Because people are not supporting us.



We see people and ourselves, hoping that some other person is liable to make us happy. Reality is, everybody is responsible for his own happiness and you are responsible for yours.


See? What society has made of self-care, it has made it an oxymoron: it gives two contradicting connotations, one is that which is original and the other is that of being selfish.
                                


 “Never give from the depths of your well, but from your overflow.”


                                                                                     ~Rumi

‘Be practical!’
                                   


What does it usually mean when someone says, “be practical!” almost every time it says, ‘can’t you see the dirt with gold?’ or ‘don’t you see the hole in the doughnut?’


This way or that, being practical has earned this social connotation of: have a look at the flaws in the plan. Have you heard someone telling a pessimist to be practical? In fact, a pessimist has a defense called ‘I am just being practical!’


The key is actually practical pessimism which is irrelevant because we are not here for solutions, rather only to cherish social attitudes( you may lament as well)


Only choice




                                  

Alert: not for happy optimists.
Ask yourself: what would be one thing or event of your life that you would like to delete or change?

Now, what about the rest of your life? Would it be the same if that particular event had not been there?

The point is, life is a series of events that has already decided its very next event. Life has not many choices to offer, that’s where happy optimists are gonna disagree. Welcome!

The dear oxymoron “only choice” begins to make sense!

Your religion, financial status, race, parents and most part of your upbringing and career were decided the day you were born.


That’s how we come to the end of social oxymorons part 1, because part 2 is heavier! Comment yours.