Why Should I Compliment Others?

Relate to this.

A person has a very charming personality (let’s not objectify here), he smiles and he has the world. He is career-oriented. He is well behaved and humble. People like him in general and you know that very well.

You know, what’s ironic here? This very person receives the least number of compliments because apparently, does he need any?

Compliments activate the same areas of the brain as money and romantic attention do. Do you make classes of people who need them and those who don’t? But admit it, classes definitely ARE there in your mind of those who need compliments and those who don’t.

The point to be made is: Everyone needs a compliment. Everyone deserves a compliment. Literally, everyone is special.

Science of compliment

It is not a science. It is a genuine expression, verbal sunshine.

And my child, feigning is transparent.

Read this twice. Many of us need to know this.

Compliment magnifies strength

People strive to do more of what brings praise to them. This moron writing this blog is just a fine example!

Compliments build this excellent positive atmosphere of trust and embrace between two people. A compliment is not a medal of the recipient, of course, if it is genuine, well deserved it must be. As a matter of fact, it gives an upper hand to the donor. It is a mirror of his self-confidence, emotional quotient, and maturity because he has come through three blocks:

Block 1:

Comparison and feeling inadequate. “ I can never be this accomplished.”

Block 2:

“What if they think I don’t have a life and I notice too much?” “Won't I seem weird saying that?”

Block 3:

“He will definitely feel that I am less in this aspect.”

“He’ll easily get an upper hand and feel superior.”

Compliment yourself

While one must not be relying on external positivity/negativity, we must make sure that we contribute positivity on our part. The next point that begs to stand is: learn to compliment yourself. 

Negativity creeps in so easily. We begin to forget a thousand ways we are special in and begin to believe that we are not receiving many compliments because we simply do not deserve them. It's not up to others to keep you encouraged. Encouragement should come from inside.

Treat yourself with compliments for achieving small goals: waking up to an alarm, eating healthy for a week, saving money, paying a compliment to someone, peacefully ending an argument or not getting into one in the first place, helping your mother with chores, etc. etc.

Don't forget yourself in giving compliments to others while you realize its service!